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Working Girls
If you’re a working girl, you are likely carrying more than most people realise.
Not just the work itself, but the management of it. The filtering. The editing. The split between who knows what, who gets told what version, which story belongs where, and how quickly you can switch from one world to another. That kind of shape-shifting takes energy. A lot of it.
Sometimes what clients bring in is anxiety, secrecy, hypervigilance, exhaustion, or the simple desire to have one place where they can be all of them, not edit parts. . Sometimes it’s the pressure of living two lives. Sometimes it’s the sleep deprivation, the weird rhythms, the junk food, the caffeine, the being “on” in a split second and then trying to come back down again afterwards. Sometimes it’s shame, even when intellectually you know better than to internalise everyone else’s judgment.
Underneath there is often a deep need for safety. A body that has learned to scan, protect, compartmentalise, and survive. A self that gets split across contexts because that has been the safest or most practical way to live.
I am not interested in treating you like the problem.
I also won’t be shocked, moralistic, or weird about your work. You are a full and complex human being who has a profession, not a cautionary tale.
The work here is often about integration.
Not necessarily in the sense of telling everybody everything, because life is not always that simple, but in the sense of becoming more yourself across the different parts of your world. The less distance there is between your selves, the less strain in holding them apart.
You should not have to burn through your nervous system just to get through the day. You deserve a place where nothing is off the table, and nothing about you needs to be edited into something more palatable.
Book a free introductory call
If you’re considering therapy with me, the next step is to book a free introductory call.
This call is a no-pressure way of getting to know each other a little. You can ask questions, get a feel for how I work, and see whether we are a good fit for each other. Therapy is a relationship, and fit matters.