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Relationships
Just to be clear up front: I don't see couples. If you're looking for someone to sit in a room with you and your partner, that's not me.
But if you're an individual who keeps bumping up against the same things in your relationships like shutting down, snapping, saying nothing when you have everything to say, trying to be close and feeling something pull you away, then yes. That's exactly what I work with.
The same patterns keep happening.
You know it. You can feel it coming. A certain tone, a certain look, a certain silence. And before you can stop yourself, you've done it again. Withdrawn. Exploded. Gone quiet. Left the room. Or worse, stayed and felt yourself disappear.
Here's why: your relationship patterns aren't just in your head. They're in your body. The way you brace when someone raises their voice. The way you go quiet when you feel criticised. The way you lean in or pull back, often before you've even noticed you're doing it.
These patterns were learned somewhere. Maybe early. Maybe slowly, over years. And they've kept you safe in ways you might not even remember. But now they're getting in the way.
In our sessions, we don't just talk about what happens in your relationships.
We track what happens in your body when you think about them. A tightening in your chest when you imagine speaking up. A pulling away when you picture being vulnerable. A shutting down that happens faster than your words can follow.
We work with those sensations gently.
Not forcing you to change. Just noticing. And slowly, as your body learns it can feel these things without being overwhelmed, new responses become possible. You speak when you would have stayed silent. You stay when you would have run. Not because you tried harder, because your nervous system finally feels safe enough to try something new.
This isn't couples counselling. This is you, learning the creature you are in relationship. And then deciding what you want to do with that.
Book a free introductory call
If you’re considering therapy with me, the next step is to book a free introductory call.
This call is a no-pressure way of getting to know each other a little. You can ask questions, get a feel for how I work, and see whether we are a good fit for each other. Therapy is a relationship, and fit matters.